From unleashing evil to building up stronger tolerance nets
After my last post I felt the need to post something more encouraging and less depressive. But, I had to leave my office, let me continue with my last post.
After some days I watched the film and commenting with some friends, they tagged it as a dark film ... but when I told them it was based on a real life experiment and that the actual participants of the experiment were not people from the streets but students, then there was a big silence ... reality can be darker. I still do not know what they think, perhaps it is unbelievable or simply too difficult to try to understand.
So, I said or my conclusion was (pretty much based on Dr. Zimbardo´s experiment and theory) that all humans are capable to make evil, in the moment you decide to make feel bad to a third person, in that moment you are being evil, even if what your are doing or "not" doing seems non-evil (compared to other actions).
I am getting blue again ... I wonder if those short-evil trips, we all have, UNLEASH worst evil actions in the persons first affected. Think of a mother tired of a long tedious work day, it is 7.55 pm and the only thing she is thinking is "I want to go home and have a nice warm bath". But She cannot, because She is awaiting for her boss to check a report, when finally her boss calls her, it is only to hear how bad She did in a harsh tone of voice, despite all her efforts and knowing part of her work is wrong due to other´s responsibilities, She decides to remain in silence, thinking "I want to go home and tomorrow will be a better day to solve this" ... her tolerance capability is being tested, that tolerance capability that I see as a net and I think that some of us has it made of stronger strings than others. Later, when She gets home and finds her children right in front of the TV, which She hates, She decides to have a deep breath, hug their children and explain how bad is to watch TV being too close to the screen. Then, after making them go to bed, She has a nice warm bath and think over her day; then She knows exactly what to do tomorrow. But, this mother has a strong tolerance net, someone different would have had at least a strong argument with her boss, go home and batter her children, making not only her night uglier but the one of her children. So, I wonder if her boss (perhaps also stress of the long-work day and decided to meet deadlines) had stopped himself of being harsh (at least), another the story would be.
So my conclusion:
Whatever the difficulties we might encounter, we´d better think twice what our actions can unleash, take a deep breath.
I have the strong conviction that we all can build up stronger tolerance nets day after day and with it a better place to live in.